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This cannot be accepted as normal

Why does he think “rape jokes” are necessary or funny? This is the Philippines now. Everyone makes fun of anyone. There is no adherence to what we call the common good. Everyone defends tactlessness with strategy. Oh when will we ever learn? And they call me narrow minded.

I have refrained from posts dealing with our politics but this is one about the right thing to do.You may admire the president for his vision and his plans but it does not diminish how you support him if you call him out on words that have no place in civilized society. It’s not about being red, white or yellow. It’s ALL about being a decent person which you want the next generation to become.

And to those who are trying to defend him or are trying to justify his repeated acts uhm, I’d rather not say anything bad against you. I’ll just pray. I PRAY TO THE HEAVENS AS WELL that kids will not grow up thinking that rape jokes pertaining to our mothers, sisters, daughters, grand daughters & nieces are okay and funny. President  has to stop these rape jokes which are NOT jokes, cute or funny. Maybe no one among his children questioned him why he was throwing material and verbal trashes from way in the past. It could also be that he refused to listen.

 Do not laugh at what President has said. It demeans. It impugns dignity. Remind the president it is wrong so he can do better the next time around.Isn’t Pia Wurtzbach a supporter of the president? Perhaps she would be at best position to tell off the president that this isn’t

1) a solution to drugs
2) a solution to terrorism

3) a solution to anything.

The one thing that I know for sure is that sooner or later, everything cones to an end.

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Life

In our culture, “What are you worth?” is a question about your finances and utility, not your character. To be a “suc­cess” means you have more at the end than you did at the start. We say “you can’t take it with you” but we be­have and judge as though you can.

If your worth is limited to what one has have amassed or the positions one has occupied, then your education did not achieve its purpose.If the stories we tell involve others who have influenced our lives or have given us direction, then your life has been well lived. Or if we have made a difference in others’ lives. If we can influence others to succeed or be the better version of themselves, we can say our life is serving a great purpose.

But I always think that everything has its phase. Maybe it is the phase of that persons life when he is just enjoying the material things he can afford. Why such attachment to materialism? Maybe he was deprived as a child, but whatever the reason is, I don’t want to judge them They are just living the life that they want.

Life, anyway is education by itself which continues to change, update and expand. To be an instrument of change is never self serving unless we brag about it. Honestly, there are no right or wrong answers, only personal judgement and consequences.

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A swan song sadly ungraceful

statsHe’s still a great fighter. I really think he should retire though 🙂 but statistics don’t lie. He should’ve won.

Manny Pacquiao should retire before he gets seriously hurt. He is still the greatest fighter in this generation no matter that he lost to Horn. It’s Arum and Roach who want him to fight because they make lots of money. Manny has enough money to make his children and grandchildren live comfortably. He can be a good senator when not planning for the next fight.

Some reports claim he has advances for future fights. I hope he retires and still be healthy. His claim to fame has been established and will remain, but he should know when to bow out. I know very little about boxing. I supported him less and less the moment he decided to become a politician and boxer at the same time. I don’t celebrate his loss, but I’m not agonizing at the supposed unfair decision. I don’t agree with his politics.

I do feel for the man for I can’t even begin to understand how it is to face the twilight of your career not only with a humiliating loss, but receive no sympathy from many of those who once cheered for you. But then again, it’s really all about the money. $$$ Win or lose, Manny earns millions.

I don’t regard Pacquiao’s fights as actual sporting competitions within an actual sports league, a career path, etc. They are all just money-making spectacles nowadays. People are saying he should retire. He actually retires after every fight and just fights again if the whole commercial enterprise of Team Pacquiao cooks up another event so they can earn several million dollars more. I think he should concentrate on his political stint. But there again, not. Hoping he would not make it to becoming president of the Republic of the Philippines.

 

 

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Valid Reflections

Just read a friend’s post update in the evil Facebook how she “wished” she could tour Europe, but had to save for her child’s tuition fee. And I thought, this is true especially if you have mouths to feed other than your own. The reality is, you need money to survive in this world. It is not *everything,* but it is a BIG FACTOR.

I never been married or engaged, no kids.  I live by myself, I pay my own bills, and I remember being asked: “If you were to choose just ONE… what would you pick: Work for MONEY OR PASSION?” Now in my 30’s, I can say… without any hesitation, regret or apprehension that I would pick the cold hard cash over the raw fire in my belly. Why?! Because I realize now that nothing in this world is FREE… and to fund my passions, I need to pay my way (instead of relying on others to buy them for me).

My passions include reading, eating & investing, but would I be able to purchase the books I want to read without money?! NO. How about preparing for retirement as I have gotten older I have learned to appreciate investing .Donate for causes close to my heart, like women and animal and children rights without money?! NO. How about eating healthy food? I couldn’t afford it , if I don’t have any money. So yes, I’m willing to sacrifice many things like my beauty sleep & free time for a large paycheck, if it means earning (more than) enough to fulfill my passions without sacrificing my health, because obviously, health is wealth.

There is *nothing* so gravely wrong or “loser” about taking the path more traveled. Choosing the “normal” road or getting a regular paycheck or a conventional job/business doesn’t automatically mean that you are turning your back on your creative passions.

I don’t want to sound like a “dream killer,” but I speak from experience. Face it, things add up. You cannot live on passion alone. By itself, it will not feed you or your family, not unless you’re already swimming in dough to begin with. Unfortunately, that’s not the truth for majority of people in this world. Not even for me.

You cannot (realistically) afford all your dreams. At least, not all the time or all at the same time. That’s the first lesson a person has to learn that he can’t have everything and to find fulfillment and happiness with whatever he has or can afford. It’s not enough to dream *big.* your earning capacity must also be BIG. “Money cannot buy you peace of mind. But it can buy more freedom in life. “ This is why I really “grew up” to be the person I am today: passionate & ambitious in a decent manner. So there. Think about it. There is so much more to say, but I suppose I should leave that for another post.

 

 

 

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Are foreigners allowed to drive Transport Network Vehicle Services (TNVS) here?

 

I am losing faith in Uber. Seems to be getting worse and worse drivers these days. Uber is surely on the way down. The Uber driver that drove me the other day I highly suspect is a blue collar foreign national which means not a Filipino. He could hardly speak English and Tagalog and had no idea where he was going except follow GPS.

 

Also recently getting a lot of retiree drivers who drive very slowly. It needs to do something about checking its drivers. Actually I do want to report about the driver that I suspect is illegal.

 

Have had some experience with Uber’s customer service, which is galling – everything is offshore, and you can only submit feedback/complaints through its in-app function. Turnaround time varies from a couple hours to days, and the quality/consistency of responses also varies.

 

Note that you have to keep at least one credit card tied to your Uber account – the app won’t allow deletion or cash-only payment. Plus, there seems to be little/no disciplinary action taken against errant drivers. I once reported a driver for going against the flow of traffic, and was told he would not be matched to me again. That’s the penalty?!

 

Increasingly I am moving back to cab/ taxi or Grab instead of Uber. The new flat rate comfort pricing is a good move and makes it more affordable as well during peak hours Vs Uber which is increasingly becoming more and more expensive. The bigger problem is that the quality of Uber drivers is getting bad.

 

Uber should do better screening and offer better rated drivers to higher rated passengers. There’s been an incident where the driver had a criminal record and was allowed to drive. Ended up robbing a passenger. What’s worse is the fellers rating was below 3 stars and he was still driving.

 

I’ve been taking Grab Taxi or Grab Car all these while and happy with them. They keep having promos now, like P50 off on Grabcar rides from 12NN – 5PM or enjoy 70% off first 3 Grab rides when you pay with BPI card .  Gives me more reasons to take them. So far Grab drivers are fine with me, I’ll never use again the service of Uber .

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Why this is the worst?

 

When a man implies he digs you and then follows it up with “although admittedly I rarely go for short-haired ladies…” It sounds backhanded, like, “admittedly I don’t usually go for short guys,” a kind of passive-aggressive vibe. And it suggests an “are you open to changing it?” Or I guess “bald guys” would be a better comparison since height is harder to alter. It just shows how shallow some people are. Someone’s hair style shouldn’t be the determining factor about starting a potential relationship with them. It’s best to avoid people like that. More than likely they will make mountains out of insignificant issues.

 

Nobody needs that kind of drama in their life. I think this bothers me/you/us on a subconscious level because it indicates that despite what he has learned about your personality, lifestyle, worldview, etc. he still fixates more on your physical appearance than anything else. It’s like he’s surprised that he finds you both interesting AND attractive. Which definitely says something about the type of guy he is AND the type of woman he usually goes for. And he sounds like a dick that usually goes for stereotypically hot bimbos.

 

Last summer I was walking down a crowded street and I saw a pacifier on the ground and a child in a stroller nearby. My “let’s do a good deed” programming kicked in and I picked up the pacifier and held it out towards the parent, “Yours?” They looked at me like I was a serial killer (I’m not) and shook their head. Oops. It all happened so fast I didn’t realize how my action would be perceived. This is not the only story of me putting my foot in my mouth and won’t be the last (this reply is likely another instance). Think about what you say/do? Yeah, of course, but it still applies to both genders and there should be a sliver of leeway for honest mistakes.

 

If a woman told a man she doesn’t normally go for guys with beards, or guys with red hair, but she really liked the man, I would think – wow! His personality overwhelmed her “type.” I might roll my eyes a bit but that wouldn’t be offended. It’s a weird phenomenon for us to reckon with, the reality that the ethics of certain behaviors have more to do with social identities and power dynamics than with the content of the behaviors themselves. Harder for those of us with more privilege. Like, I totally get it on the conceptual level, but still stumble around recognizing it practice. Some things are only good and true when said by certain people; who you are conditions to believe on what they say.

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The pros and cons of playing video games

Pros = when gaming, you are God in the game or the champion and the super hero of the day. And when you don’t like the outcome, you just restart or wipe out the loss. Now who wouldn’t want that power and escapism?

Cons: You actually think you are God and a super hero and somehow that seeps from subconscious into your consciousness. The bad? Spending so much time in front of the computer will definitely be detrimental to myopia levels and school grades! Moderation is the key.

Like any activity, video gaming if taken to the extreme can be detrimental. Are there pros? Yes, many in fact, but I’d admit most kids would not have the mental fortitude to understand why/how they’re playing the game. Video games offer tremendous valuable lessons to the kids, if only their guardians knew how.

To be fair, there are simply too many genres of video games on too many platforms. How one can find Minecraft or Civilization nefarious, amazes me. On the other hand, I’ve been told Candy Crush is an amazing educational game to keep kids occupied. OK, I’ll take that.

Parents need to be aware of what video games their kids are playing and how they spend their time playing it. Try forcing a 12year old boy playing Dota or League with his friends at computer shop to continue with his homework, mid-game. Good luck with that.

Parents who are not media savvy and have no tolerance for video games are going to develop communication issues with their kids, especially if they offer no alternative.

At the end of the day, like all forms of media, video games can both be a positive and negative stimulus. It’s up to the parents to expose them to the right games, and educating themselves on these games before exposing their children. Easier said than done, so the only answer falls back to moderation.