random thoughts

Why do people think they have a right to demand interaction with people who don’t know them?

If you think women are paranoid about their safety and overreact, let me tell you a story from yesterday :

While on the MRT I noticed a guy staring at me in a way that made me more than uncomfortable.

I put my headphones in, and pretended to space out.

Meanwhile, I was actually alert to paying attention to what he was doing, and when it came for me to get off my stop, he also got off the same exit.

When I exited the station, I still had my headphones in but had the music so low I could hear his footsteps behind me.

Then, he started saying, “Hello…Hellllllo!” and I kept ignoring it.

Then, he grabbed my arm from behind to get my attention.

I snapped at him and said, “Please, don’t touch me.”

To which he responded, “What? I can’t have a conversation with you?”

“No,” I said.

I sped up my pace and tried to get ahead of him, and thankfully he didn’t follow me. But for the five minute walk to the mall I kept looking over my shoulder, just in case.

And that’s the fear women deal with. We look over our shoulders and we examine if we are safe, whether it’s on the MRT, in a parking lot, while walking home, in a Park and pretty much anywhere and everywhere.

How often do men worry about being stalked by women down the street? There’s privilege in feeling safe, and assuming you’re safe.

Being a woman doesn’t guarantee or warrant that safety. So be kind to us and try to understand why we feel the way we do and help us feel safer by providing support when we need it, and not shaming us when we tell you why we don’t feel like the world is designed with women’s concerns or safety in mind

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to start a conversation with someone, even a stranger but the way to do this is to allow distance between and lay down some social cues indicating a conversation is hoped for. Unsolicited touching of anyone especially a complete a stranger is never acceptable and can be extremely upsetting and frightening. If you’re a person that doesn’t understand social cues or how to initiate a conversation that’s ok and maybe it’s not your fault but don’t be alarmed when we snap ourselves away from you and your too close of proximity at anytime while walking alone!? And now, we get to be scared you might retaliate. No one owes each other anything except me owing myself my own safety and comfort. Ugg. I hate this I’m sorry.

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marketing, random thoughts

Scan a QR code

After realizing I can scan Qr codes using iphone default camera, yup! And if may discount since one swipe away easily default lock screen .If there’s a catchy tagline or I’m particularly interested in the product, then yes. Otherwise, I wouldn’t scan for scanning’s sake.Unless it’s linked to an app which I already have and use regularly and it has something compelling for me to use or have and it’s linked to my actions or needs. For example, GMovies, Uniqlo, SMCinema, Grab rewards, etc. Or if it’s for my convenience like I don’t have to print anything, just show the code at the entrance.

in all honesty, would you scan a QR code?Yes, If its unique and generated specifically for the use. Like an invite code, confirmation of payment, of fulfillment of some sort, etc.

I have never been a fan of QR codes. I realised though that it is because I judged it mostly in the context of needing to get content (whatever it is) by scanning a QR code. But I have seen it work where the QR code makes it easier to transact. The insight is simple: you might leave your wallet behind, but in most cases you won’t leave without your phone. The challenge is not the format, I think, but in how you build a new habit / behaviour from scratch.

It may be possible especially when you shepherd everyone only through a singular way to transact, ie via QR code (transact: to pay or to do something functional like submitting info, things with numerous steps that may be simplified by a single QR and when there is a relatively inconvenient object you can ‘demonise’ ie cards, wallets, etc) whilst simultaneously ensuring frictionless experience whilst doing it post-app download that will process the QR.

INTERESTINGLY, beggars in Hangzhou don’t need your change; they want you to snap their code for RMB to go straight to their digital wallet.

Indeed, with the right infra and proper use of QR codes attached to transactions and not to irrelevant content engagement only creators find amusing, it is possible to scale it!

The QR code was in a signage beside it. So I guess what I am saying is, if you force people to in anyway, they will.

 

 

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Temporary closure of Boracay

I say yes to closure. But here’s a twist.

Have the business owners and their workforce help clean it up. Of course, they have to be paid by the local government or the Philippine government in order to compensate their lost earnings. Sounds dumb, really. But that’s the best I can think of for a win/win situation.

The tourists have the freedom to look for another place.There should be a master plan indicating the following:
1. Specific situations to be resolved like solid, liquid, and air pollution and waste management; definition of public, commercial areas and forest lands; immediate and regular maintenance; application or revisions of applicable local and national laws.
2. Timeline of work programs with specific targets, areas, timelines, approved budget, and responsible entities
3. Support programs for displaced wage earners and local micro-small businesses.
4. Specific targets to be completed and acceptable variances.
5. FAQs with directory of contacts of responsible officers

When the roads or drainage system is being repaired in-front of your business establishment, does the government or your land lord give you financial assistance for your loss of business for that period? Does the lease get waived when there’s construction?

In reality, there is never win win situation.Business is about risk and repairs and development will always be there that is a part of risk.Its not the current admins fault. Its the greedy pigs before hand that welcomed the profit but never fixed what needed to be fix. Its good that the current admin is fixing something rather than all the previous admins allowing everything to rot.

This closure will let the future generation appreciate boracay as we have in the now.

 

 

 

 

 

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Let’s start a “Good Monday “

7 11 STore hahhaha

People of earth: If you see someone in need of help right in front of you, take a minute to help them. It will brighten your day.So who did I help today that brought on this post?I helped a half- blind man at convenience store today. He was at a coffee vending machine trying to purchase his coffee he couldn’t figure out what buttons to push to select the type of coffee he needed. People at the store next to him kept staring but didn’t do anything. I offered to help him and everyone just watched us. It was his first time at the convenience store branch so I showed him what coffee to get on, asked the store manager  to assist him until he leave the store (he was not happy about it but oh well) and sat next to him in few minutes until my slurpee is done. He was pretty interesting. Him and his daughter just moved to Pasig City from Leyte and he said he wanted to get his dog used to the environment in Pasig. He’s a computer programmer and his daughter is a call center agent.

Is that good enough for this Monday Morning?   Helping those out those who need it. Not charity or any thing just good old kindness.

 

 

 

perspective, random thoughts

This year is over and yes, I’m still single.

xsss

It’s December 31 2017, and everybody who’s close to me on would know by now that I’ve been doing an annual flashback since 2004. It’s basically a run-down of the things I loved and learned throughout the year, which includes achieved goals in all aspects of my life. Everybody who’s close to me would know that the area I struggle most in achieving goals is in my “romantic life” (which is to say the absence of it). This year I include a KPI of the number of dates I need to achieve. Well, for this year, I FAILED. I was not able to go on 10 dates this year. In fact, I haven’t gone on a single date at all. 0/10.

10? Some people would say that should have been easy. Sure. That would have been easy, if I wasn’t so “PIHIKAN”, according to Tita 1, Tita 2, Married Friend 1, Married Friend 2, Friend’s Husband 1, Friend’s Husband 2, Ex-Officemate 1, Ex-Officemate 2, etc.

Maybe I’ve been single for a year that I’ve become immune to all the possible reasons people say I’m single. Sometimes I even get a kick out of seeing the reactions of Tita 1, Tita 2, to my responses when they ask me why I’m still single. The best so far are 1. Horror and 2. Disgust to the response “Di ko pa nabibili yung lalaki, Tita, eh.”

But really, it gets tiring sometimes to respond to the same question over and over again. Especially when 1. Your little sister gets engaged and 2. Your cousins get girlfriends. You’re the last one in the family they could ask that question to. Well, I’ve decided to answer this way and I hope all the Titas are reading.“Masaya po akong single, Tita. Hindi naman po ako mag-isa.”

Here are few reasons from this year:

  1. I’m single so I have less distraction. I was able to focus on work and be much productive
  2. I’m single so I don’t worry about a plus-one seat at a wedding. I’ve attended several weddings this year and friends never had to try and accommodate an extra seat for me. I was obviously very active at my sister’s wedding, being a bridesmaid and all, and at one of my friend’s weddings, so if I had a plus-one, he’d just be sitting awkwardly at the table those times.
  3. I’m single but that doesn’t mean I don’t want kids. I do get some practice spending time with my favorite nephew, godchildren and friends’ kids.
  4. I’m single so my family is my priority. This is probably the most time I’ve spent with the family over the span of a year – my moms’ movie date, aside from actually living weekly at home with mom and my younger sister .
  5. I’m single so I don’t seek permission to go on an excursion with friends like instant gala
  6. I’m single and dateless so I make my own dates. I don’t have to worry about whether this person is free to meet up with me on this date or what. I watch concerts, movies, play alone and I enjoy.
  7. I’m single so I get to plan my own birthday. No birthday surprise for me this year from any of my groups of friends, but that’s fine because it was never anyone’s responsibility anyway.
  8. I’m single but never lonely on Valentine’s Day and Christmas… I’m happy to spend these days with family and friends .
  9. I’m single so I can decide on my own how to spend my hard-earned money and invest for my future. I hear it often enough that once you get married, your priorities change, and you take care of expenses that are not just your own. There were some disappointments on the financial side for me this year but at least I’m only responsible for my own financial decisions.
  10. I’m single so I take care of myself. No one else will do it for me. I’m way past the stage when my mom must feed me and prepare my food.
  11. I’m single and taking this time to continue to discover more of myself. I’m getting to know new strengths and weaknesses now that I’ve already in my thirties. I do believe that couples are not two halves but two wholes that come together. The happiest couples I know are the ones that exemplify this.
  12. I’m single so I do the things that make me happy. Most of the married couples I know tell me all the time “sulitin mo na ‘yan habang single ka” and I can see what they mean. I’m free to spend my time traveling to new places and experiencing new things. I don’t even mind going back to the same places I’ve been to like Cebu, Bicol ,SG, and Sagada.
  13. I’m single so I make my own choices. This is not to say that people who are not single cannot make their own choices but I’m just saying that after everything I’ve said or written down, at the end of the day, I’m living my life the best way I can. I chose my own investments, what job to apply for. I can choose how and with whom to spend my life with.
  14. Being single does not define me. My relationship status does not define how I live. I don’t have a boyfriend or a husband. I don’t have children. But that does not make me unhappy.

And so, next year, I choose not to include dating in my goals anymore. I still choose to live life to the fullest. I still choose to be happy the way I see happiness to be for me. Cheers to 2018! And as usual, thank you to all who made my 2017 memorable!

 

marketing, Web/Tech

Is anyone planning on pre -ordering the iPhone X?

You’re planning on pre -ordering  the iPhone X?  It’s $999 for a phone… Oh I’m totally getting one. In four years. When the iPhone 16 comes out. That’s about my rate of renewal. I had to upgrade to the 6s when they no longer supported my old iPhone. My concern about the new phone is all glass. I need a phone made of super ball material. I need it to bounce when I drop it. Now that’s my kind of phone! Someone needs to invent that! :p

This is the first time I have not been interested in much less excited about a new iPhone launch. I am not sure how the newer models would make my life better. Is face recognition better than fingerprint sensing? Do I really need a larger screen than what I have on the 6S Plus? Do I want to give up my independent headphone jack (given that I user pretty nice headphones)? Do I want to spend 999 plus the uplift for a 128 plus Apple Care plus sales tax for a phone that doesn’t really advance anything for me? Does reverting to a glass back sound good? The answer to all of the above is “no”. This 6S Plus 128 had better last a while.

Apple marketing is increasingly becoming like others – a lot of words, numbers and specs to try and knock you over. The magic in their clean marketing of yore is gone through and through. Since there are more players in the smartphone market now, new features (if you can call it that) may be revealed by Android clones though I don’t see any exciting features from Android clones too. They’re mainly incremental changes of features usually first introduced by Apple, eg fingerprint scanner, sharper displays, chamfered edges etc . Was there anything groundbreaking in the Note 8? So its only natural to think you’ve seen all this before, until someone reimagines the next communication device. Also, every new iPhone release is prefaced with a steady stream of leaks months before the release and these leaks are now more accurate than before.

 

perspective, random thoughts

This cannot be accepted as normal

Why does he think “rape jokes” are necessary or funny? This is the Philippines now. Everyone makes fun of anyone. There is no adherence to what we call the common good. Everyone defends tactlessness with strategy. Oh when will we ever learn? And they call me narrow minded.

I have refrained from posts dealing with our politics but this is one about the right thing to do.You may admire the president for his vision and his plans but it does not diminish how you support him if you call him out on words that have no place in civilized society. It’s not about being red, white or yellow. It’s ALL about being a decent person which you want the next generation to become.

And to those who are trying to defend him or are trying to justify his repeated acts uhm, I’d rather not say anything bad against you. I’ll just pray. I PRAY TO THE HEAVENS AS WELL that kids will not grow up thinking that rape jokes pertaining to our mothers, sisters, daughters, grand daughters & nieces are okay and funny. President  has to stop these rape jokes which are NOT jokes, cute or funny. Maybe no one among his children questioned him why he was throwing material and verbal trashes from way in the past. It could also be that he refused to listen.

 Do not laugh at what President has said. It demeans. It impugns dignity. Remind the president it is wrong so he can do better the next time around.Isn’t Pia Wurtzbach a supporter of the president? Perhaps she would be at best position to tell off the president that this isn’t

1) a solution to drugs
2) a solution to terrorism

3) a solution to anything.

The one thing that I know for sure is that sooner or later, everything cones to an end.