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Are foreigners allowed to drive Transport Network Vehicle Services (TNVS) here?

 

I am losing faith in Uber. Seems to be getting worse and worse drivers these days. Uber is surely on the way down. The Uber driver that drove me the other day I highly suspect is a blue collar foreign national which means not a Filipino. He could hardly speak English and Tagalog and had no idea where he was going except follow GPS.

 

Also recently getting a lot of retiree drivers who drive very slowly. It needs to do something about checking its drivers. Actually I do want to report about the driver that I suspect is illegal.

 

Have had some experience with Uber’s customer service, which is galling – everything is offshore, and you can only submit feedback/complaints through its in-app function. Turnaround time varies from a couple hours to days, and the quality/consistency of responses also varies.

 

Note that you have to keep at least one credit card tied to your Uber account – the app won’t allow deletion or cash-only payment. Plus, there seems to be little/no disciplinary action taken against errant drivers. I once reported a driver for going against the flow of traffic, and was told he would not be matched to me again. That’s the penalty?!

 

Increasingly I am moving back to cab/ taxi or Grab instead of Uber. The new flat rate comfort pricing is a good move and makes it more affordable as well during peak hours Vs Uber which is increasingly becoming more and more expensive. The bigger problem is that the quality of Uber drivers is getting bad.

 

Uber should do better screening and offer better rated drivers to higher rated passengers. There’s been an incident where the driver had a criminal record and was allowed to drive. Ended up robbing a passenger. What’s worse is the fellers rating was below 3 stars and he was still driving.

 

I’ve been taking Grab Taxi or Grab Car all these while and happy with them. They keep having promos now, like P50 off on Grabcar rides from 12NN – 5PM or enjoy 70% off first 3 Grab rides when you pay with BPI card .  Gives me more reasons to take them. So far Grab drivers are fine with me, I’ll never use again the service of Uber .

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Why this is the worst?

 

When a man implies he digs you and then follows it up with “although admittedly I rarely go for short-haired ladies…” It sounds backhanded, like, “admittedly I don’t usually go for short guys,” a kind of passive-aggressive vibe. And it suggests an “are you open to changing it?” Or I guess “bald guys” would be a better comparison since height is harder to alter. It just shows how shallow some people are. Someone’s hair style shouldn’t be the determining factor about starting a potential relationship with them. It’s best to avoid people like that. More than likely they will make mountains out of insignificant issues.

 

Nobody needs that kind of drama in their life. I think this bothers me/you/us on a subconscious level because it indicates that despite what he has learned about your personality, lifestyle, worldview, etc. he still fixates more on your physical appearance than anything else. It’s like he’s surprised that he finds you both interesting AND attractive. Which definitely says something about the type of guy he is AND the type of woman he usually goes for. And he sounds like a dick that usually goes for stereotypically hot bimbos.

 

Last summer I was walking down a crowded street and I saw a pacifier on the ground and a child in a stroller nearby. My “let’s do a good deed” programming kicked in and I picked up the pacifier and held it out towards the parent, “Yours?” They looked at me like I was a serial killer (I’m not) and shook their head. Oops. It all happened so fast I didn’t realize how my action would be perceived. This is not the only story of me putting my foot in my mouth and won’t be the last (this reply is likely another instance). Think about what you say/do? Yeah, of course, but it still applies to both genders and there should be a sliver of leeway for honest mistakes.

 

If a woman told a man she doesn’t normally go for guys with beards, or guys with red hair, but she really liked the man, I would think – wow! His personality overwhelmed her “type.” I might roll my eyes a bit but that wouldn’t be offended. It’s a weird phenomenon for us to reckon with, the reality that the ethics of certain behaviors have more to do with social identities and power dynamics than with the content of the behaviors themselves. Harder for those of us with more privilege. Like, I totally get it on the conceptual level, but still stumble around recognizing it practice. Some things are only good and true when said by certain people; who you are conditions to believe on what they say.

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Have a new start full of joy this new year

As the 2014 is coming to a close, it’s that time of the year when you acknowledge that there is a greater power out there that already has plans for you. This year has been sad and challenging yet fun and interesting. Losses are so difficult whether expected or unexpected. There are four special people who have passed away in this year. All these have taught me a great lesson. In this coming 2015, I wish you the best. To be brave to dare to dream the wildest dream you want and to work hard towards it, to be bold to live up your passion, to be strong to conquer challenges, to be kind to give, to be gracious to love, to be humble to learn, to be healthy, and most importantly, to always treasure those you love and those who love you. Nothing is better than living the life you want with the people who matters to you. Happy new year everyone!:)

Sharing photos I took during the New Year’s eve celebration.

meadow

fire

Copy of meadow

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Oh yay!!! Good vibes! :-)

 

I think after all the ugliness of mother earth; we need a sunny cheer up. Here’s a nice story to share this beautiful evening:

Today I spoke to 3 strangers at Makati Area. 1st was a sales lady name Pauline. I was browsing for art paper and I heard her singing the Sarah Geronimo’s version of ‘Maybe this Time’ When I made my payment I told her ” Galing, you love singing?”, she happily smiled and said “Opo naman! “. And I told her “Pauline ang ganda ng boses mo, keep it up!” She was petite, had short black hair with big round eyes. 2nd was a promoter from hardware shop who showed me the extra discount section when I made payment. Nice up selling, but I honestly told her ” pag na promote ka ng product ipakita mo . wag mo itago sa box kase wala makakapansin yan.d yun box binebenta mo diba? “. She laughed and agreed. I told her “Have a nice day” before I left and she shouted the same back. She was a confident transgender, 5’6 ft tall, had her hair in a nice bun. 3rd person was a really good waitress at Bizu. Loved her service. After a good meal I told her “Thanks so much Hannah!”. She had her hair tied into a pony tail and she wore eye glasses. (Like me hehehehe..)

How many of us almost missed a lift and got saved by someone inside who kindly pressed the click button? Did you walk in thanking a complete stranger, and that person gives you a welcome smile, then your mood was slightly lifted up for the day? We can make a difference in anyone’s life every day in any way. It doesn’t have to be big, even a simple smile will brighten up their day.

Now my point is not saying that I made an effort to talk more with them or thank them. At the end of the day, if we pay more attention to people and open up more to them – no one is really a stranger. Everyone wants a conversation. Everyone wants attention. Everyone wants love. Everyone wants happiness. Those are basic needs of the soul. Above it all, it is more blessed to give than to receive. I got pumped up with extra dose of happiness and positivity.

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How do you reflect on your life and your mortality?

Having seeing death of my loved ones this year can be a wake-up call to think deeply about what we use our short time here for. They shift my perspective and help me reflect on the need to seize every day as if it was the last. (as the old adage goes) Recently, during recollection,we asked to write our own eulogy’ exercises .I was struck by the pure insignificance my death would have on the world. I imagined that I had died and what the impact of my death would be. Yes, some would miss me. Yes, some would mourn for me. Yes, some would lose something because of my non-existence.

But, really, how much of an impact would my death really have? The people that are affected at the outset would return to their lifestyles, their routines. They would find ways to continue on with their lives without me.

This experience left me with many profound realizations:

– People are extraordinary. Regardless of what life throws at them (my death for example), they would be able to pick themselves up, find a way onwards, and be happy. People are actually quite powerful when faced with change.

– If death (and life) are so insignificant what does it matter what I do? I could choose to be a complete bitchy and piss people off. I could work a corporate job and do what everyone else does. I could be a pure saint. I could stand for something. I could look bad, be embarrassed, be scared, be courageous, be confident, be powerful. None of this matters at all, because one day I will die and everyone will just move on. I actually find this insight incredibly uplifting and empowering.

I suppose on an egotistical level, I would love to think that my death would have an impact. Perhaps by my death people would be inspired to make drastic changes in their life. Perhaps they will be inspired to be more empathetic and caring for every other person. Perhaps they will be more open and transparent. Perhaps they will take responsibility for their lives and their choices.

But, I think this is a pipe dream. Nothing will happen at my death. The only thing I could ever possibly impact is those people around me, who interact with me while I’m alive, every day.

 

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Saddened discovering the “Power Struggle”

Just realized on a few people I know, who are self-centered and ego-centric which I suspect, mix with tinges of myriad of insecurities . What they have in common are being abusive in one respect or other – whether verbal, physical in ways and avenues they manifest mainly to their closest and dearest. However, they are invariably charming, pleasant, nice and helpful to strangers, acquaintances and friends, especially female friends.

For one who I knew a long time, it took me a while to realize all his tales of woe of his family not being nice to him and me wondering why this was so – was because he was verbally and physically abusive to them. It give me a shock to realized this once I fully comprehend it. He was also proud of it – I heard the pride in his voice when he admitted to beating up a woman.

Another was so proud of his own faults he accused me of a lot of things he himself was. For no good reason he had an outburst. I was so amazed by his accusations but realized it was no good pointing this out to him – that his accusations described him exactly and when I asked my guidance counselor friend what was up with that – he explained “projection” to me. I was his projection for some reason or other.

All these few people I was thinking about had a common denominator which cued me to their inner demons and real self – bad temper with a tendency to lash out , shout and scream over inconsequential matters and a huge tendency to run down others and people in their lives. Mind you, this is not merely bad behavior – I realized with these people that once you let them get away with say , shouting at you once, they will do so again. And again. They only do it to people who will put up with it. And soon, they will start running you down too. They do it to bolster their insecurities – especially when they perceive you are doing “better” than them.

I used to feel sorry for these people – because they do project they were hard done by in one way or another ; by world, family, friends, people etc – but gradually when they reveal their true selves – I stay away from them. Truth is, it is usually too late for most of these people – to change or otherwise. Because they have locked themselves into this behavior and have been allowed to get away like this for decades. In spite of relationship failures – it is always somebody’s faulty. Family, friends, girlfriends, wives.

Nowadays, I don’t put up or feel sorry or want to put up with these types of people. To those who are abusive, narcissistic or with a behavioral disorder in dealing with me, I use to tell them where to get off. No matter who it is, I think it’s important to make yourself clear and try to avoid people who doesn’t deserve to deal with. Sometimes it helps to hold up a mirror to them. This way they can probably become aware of their own anger or dysfunctional self to cure it. I am learning that I cannot help everyone and that I cannot let people use excuses of their dysfunctional childhood/lives as excuses to behave badly . And that I have to stay far away from these abusive and frequently bullying people. People who were bullied/abused can go either way – become one themselves or help others.  Besides what I mentioned above , includes the following:

1. Trigger-Happy-Road-Rage-Ready behavior,
2. Maid, animal Abuse,
3. calling Flats, “Houses”
4. Spousal Violence, Emotional Abuse,..
5. ..etc,….
May I respectfully state that such behaviors – is NOT Gender specific, but another manifestation of the “Power struggle”.. Do Take care,..and avoid such toxic people,..WE DO Have a Choice. 

 

 

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It’s the fault of the Mother not the shopping mall

Did you hear about the three year old who died in an escalator accident in 999 Mall in Binondo, Manila?  I read of this tragedy that happened few days ago. A child died after sustaining head injuries from getting caught by the escalator.  Story says that the mother left her 3 year old unattended while she shopping and looked for shoes  . As much I sympathize for her loss, she should take the blame for her son’s loss.That woman should have called her son’s attention to go where she is (i.e. “(Son’s name)! Come here to the store. Please don’t play with the escalator.”) She thinks that he won’t get hurt. It is her responsibility to look after him and it is not the employees’ responsibility to look after her son. She is not thinking. I see kids mess with the escalators and the parents do NOTHING.  It’s just easier to blame the mall and their escalator.

Reminds me three years old are truly innocent of such things and must never be left unattended….negligence on the part of the mother. They always try to find someone else to blame other than themselves. Yeah, don’t be that parent. Don’t make the store pay for your irresponsibility and incompetence. You don’t give care about your own kid, why should the mall? Even though hundreds of parents and children rode on it the same day this poor kid was being neglected by his mother so she could buy another pair of shoes. I wish more parents to be alarmed and scared about this incident, which means you know the value of your children. You don’t mindlessly shit them out and neglect them later.